Coping with Menopause

Everybody gets a shock of their lives when they realize that they started on the path of becoming older. For a woman particularly, menopause is the confirmation that she has passed into the middle age period and while this is met with relief from some, it is looked at with apprehension by most.

The First Signals
Many women start menopause with a few mood swings initially. This is the time when all of a sudden women feel that they have no identity, or feel totally unwanted, or feel terribly unattractive; whatever be the reason most experience extreme mood swings that range from being hopelessly depressed and weepy to irritated and unreasonable.

The First Reactions
It does take time to put two plus two together at first, but when at last you realize these are the first signs of the menopause stage of your life, you find that it is actually not that scary. Yes, it does look like you are loosing something precious – your capacity to breed; to put it crudely – but at 45 plus this all of a sudden does not seem like a bad idea at all.

Coping with It
What actually bothers most women is whether they are still attractive to their husbands or male friends; whether they are seen as feminine as before reaching menopause; whether they are watched by their kids as they had watched their moms missing a name here and there, forgetting the keys, forgetting… and wondering “what happened to mom?” and so on. This period is the most difficult period because you try to see yourself through the eyes of all those who matter for you and check whether menopause really does make a difference in their love.

It Does Not
Let me assure you on one thing. Love does not diminish because you enter menopause. You will actually see that your dear ones cope better than you will ever expect with the changes by giving you the understanding and space you need. I have seen teenagers adjusting to mood swings without a crib and spouses going out of their ways to make their wives wanted and cared for during this time.

Thank you Science
Due to the advancement in science, there a lot of ways by which the symptoms of menopause can be fought. The most important thing is to look at it as a phase and not as an ailment. Though it has a number of psychological dimensions, it is actually a transition phase which needs to be met headlong.